Thursday, February 17, 2005

"Being Twenty-Something"


They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with
the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that
you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder
where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely
know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends
that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most
important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that
too, and they aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as
confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you
would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you
are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have
certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your
list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and
then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your
life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy
and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that
the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such
damage to you.
Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent
enough that you want to get to know better.
Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a
decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just
like to be a contender!
“What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it”
We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can
to figure this whole thing out.
Think abt it…maybe it will help u out to come out of confusion and
feel like you aren't alone in this state of confusion.....
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF US!!!!!

11 comments:

Dhruv Bansal said...

Hi Tina,
They say that a man is judged by his words. how true this is.
anyone who reads this blog can easily make out that this is the blog of a person who not only has a beautiful mind but a depth of character and a beautiful soul too. Being intelligent and wise comes easily to many, but being beautiful too comes to only a few...like yourself.
they say that there are 2 kinds of ppl in the world. one who are born with talent and the other who have to work towards getting something. and there are fewer still who are born with an innate knowledge of the art of living. you seem to be one of those naturals.
a beautiful blog indeed.
Dhruv.

Rahul said...

I havent read anything else that describes me (and probably just about everyone who is reading this blog) any better! Good Luck to all of us indeed!
Whatever may happen, I think when we're around 40 we'll all look back in wonder (perhaps even in awe of ourselves) that we survived the "Quarter-life Crisis"...bring on the "Mid-life Crisis"!!

(Background Music)
"Papa kehte hain, bada naam karega, beta hamara(or beti hamari)aisa kaam karega(or karegi).."

Tina said...

Well said Rahul...and stop being so nice now Dhruv!!

Dhruv Bansal said...

Why? why should I stop being nice? you never asked me to stop being rude.
but u know, i've seen that this is true for everybody.
people can handle criticism pretty smartly and confidently. that's bcos the world is full of critics and criticisms, so when someone critcises then that's normal. but when someone gives out sincere, heart-felt praise, then we become very uncomfortable, embarassed. we don't know how to react. bcos it's a new thing.
and the discomfort is both, for the praiser as well as the praisee.
the praiser thinks, how can i be so open in my appreciation. wat will the other person think?
the praisee thinks, why the hell is this person being so nice. something must be wrong, he/she can't be sincere.
in any case, pl don't ask me to stop being nice, cos i just can't do that.

man! finally the weekend is here. i had a VERY busy week...and am currently explaining the Motorola system to the new boss. THAT surely feels grand! explaining things to the boss!
have a NICE weekend!
Dhruv.

Requiem for a Dream said...

you should like sell these blog posts,they are all antiquities now...

It's Me Man!! said...

Ain't this the piece by CHARLES IYEWE??

Hirdu said...

Slow Writer !! Hmmmm !!!

akshay said...

Tina , you can sell these blog posts like spilling pills, beleive me you'll make millions

Requiem for a Dream said...

see he got so sleepy he spelled sleepy as spilly...

Dhruv Bansal said...

oh, so it's Charles Iyewe who has the beautiful mind and the beautiful soul. Noo wonder...
Hats off to Mr Charles Iyewe!!

Hirdu said...

Long time no posts why ??